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Love Languages Small Group

Great marriages have something in common: a community of people who want the best for them. A new love languages group is starting this fall and we want to invite you and your spouse to be a part of it!

The group will meet at Barbara & Stan Waite's home in Franklin. This couple have been married for 30 plus years and are funny, God loving people who want the best for marriages. They have even offered to supply a babysitter at their home if couples need it.

For a little over an hour each time, they will walk you through the 5 love languages based on the best-selling book by Gary Chapman. It's fun and eye opening and has made a huge difference in many lives.

Get to know other couples and grow your community. If you want to know more or have questions, please email Family Ministries Pastor Heather Kempskie. We have spots for up to 5 couples!

Find Support & Resources
Need a Marriage Tune-Up? 

News flash: We all do. 

Two NEC couples (Scott & Robin Cowper & Kevin & Heather Kempskie) are now certified facilitators in the internationally-acclaimed Prepare & Enrich program. These loving but imperfect couples want to help others get out of a rut; stop fighting about the same thing over and over and ultimately grow closer when daily life tends to slowly tear us apart. If you want practical tools to manage conflict, appreciate each others styles and habits and identify ways to have fun together and communicate effectively, this may be the next best step. 

Here's how it works: 
Prior to the first session, each spouse completes a private online assessment which helps identify their strengths and growth areas as a couple. It usually takes 30-45 minutes to take. It is NOT a test. Instead it will help you and the faciliators understand the relationship more fully using national norms based on over 500,000 premarital & married couples and over 35 years of research.

You meet privately with either the Cowpers or Kempskies up to four or six times over the course of a month or so as they provide feedback and teach relationship skills customized specifically for you. It's safe. It's faith based. And it's with another couple who wants the best for you. 

If you have any questions, please don't hesitate to privately email Pastor Heather
 

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Husbands:
Learn your Wife's Love Language 

Lovingly put together by your NEC Couples/Marriage Ministry Team

The 5 Love Languages*

Consider what brings your wife the most joy.

  1. Acts of Service: For these people, actions speak louder than words.
  2. Words of Affirmation: This language uses words to affirm other people.
  3. Receiving Gifts: For some people, what makes them feel most loved is to receive a gift.
  4. Quality Time: This language is all about giving the other person your attention.
  5. Physical Touch: To this person, nothing speaks more deeply than appropriate touch.

* Based on a book written by Gary Chapman (take the quiz, read more at https://www.5lovelanguages.com/)

If your wife feels loved through acts of service:

  • Know out an item on her to-do-list
  • Let her sleep in and you take on her usual to-do list
  • Ask how can I help? How can I make your day better?

If your wife feels loved through words of affirmation:

  • Leave a love letter on the counter or fridge before you leave
  • Send a text and let her know you are thinking of her
  • Go for quality words more than quantity!

If your wife feels loved through receiving gifts

  • Get tickets to an event she’d love (and go with her!)
  • Keep a running list of truly great gift ideas for special occasions
  • Slip something into her work or diaper bag

If your wife feels loved through quality time:

  • Take a lesson of some kind together
  • Take time each day to talk and connect without distractions
  • Make a regular date night plan

If your wife feels loved through physical touch:

  • Hug them in the morning and when you get home
  • Give her a foot rub
  • Grab her hand while you are out and about
A more thorough cheat sheet is available here.
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Strengthing Couples

What is NEC Couples/Marriage Ministries?
Part of Family Ministries @ NEC, NEC Couples seeks to:

  • Create space and opportunities for imperfect couples (let's face it, we all are!) who want the very best for their relationship and marriage and our willing to both give and receive support and encouragement.
  • To form a community of couples who seek God’s plan for marriage as a committed relationship based on trust and friendship that is guided by Him. We will be intentional in our efforts to seek His will in the ways we communicate with our spouse so that ourwords and actions are gentle, respectful, and affirming.